I loved the presentation of content in the book. There are different aspects covered like ego, jealousy, motivation, procrastination, etc. For each topic, the chapter starts by explaining these and how our emotions are reflected in each. It gradually ends with some short term technique or long term solution to overcome them. There is nothing that you have not heard or read before but the way it is explained in this book, it becomes easy to accept.
Somewhere at the end, it had become repetitive but that was a fragment of the book.
There are quotes mentioned from many great thinkers relevant to the topic in discussion, which I felt was a plus point. The topics were well researched and the solutions or hacks mentioned did not feel very preachy and tough to practise in our daily lives. The best part of the book was that it said that it’s ok to be not ok and such emotions are as important as being positive and happy.
My favourite lines from the book –
- What it means is that, in the long run, external events have minimal impact on your level of happiness.
- Your attitude towards life influences your happiness, not what happens to you.
- The ego refers to the self-identity you’ve constructed throughout your life. How was this identity created? Put simply, the ego was created through your thoughts and, as a mind-created identity, has no concrete reality. Events that happen to you bear no meaning in themselves. You give them meaning only through your interpretation of those events.
- Note that the ego is neither good nor bad; it’s just a result of a lack of self-awareness. It fades away as you become aware of it since ego and awareness cannot coexist.
- Loneliness is not cured by human company. Loneliness is cured by contact with reality, by understanding that we don’t need people. Anthony de Mello Once you realize you don’t actually need anyone, you can start enjoying people’s company. You can see them as they really are rather than trying to get something from them.
- To start taking control of your emotions you must accept they are transient. You must learn to let them pass without feeling the need to identify strongly with them. You must allow yourself to feel sad without adding commentaries such as, “I shouldn’t be sad,” or “What’s wrong with me?” Instead, you must allow reality to just be.
- the way you interpret emotions, as well as the blame game you engage in, creates suffering, not the emotions themselves.
- Emotions work the same way. They signal you to do something about your current situation. Perhaps, you need to let go of some people, quit your job, or remove a disempowering story that creates suffering in your life.
- Your thoughts define who you are and create your reality. That’s why you should channel your thoughts towards what you want, not what you don’t want. As the success expert Brian Tracy says, “The key to success is to focus our conscious mind on things we desire, not things we fear.
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